Dear macosx.com Therapist,

[Matrix Agent]

Hate to say it, but from the sounds of it I'd take the girl over the iBook anyday.

And I defintely agree on your "hi" advice. Its all about confidence.

Thanks for the response and best of luck, sounds like good things are coming your way.

[Decado]

Wow, this is the cuuuutest thread
Its like being a high-school student again, before all bitterness and everything
There is a fine, and hard found, line between stalking and acting hard-to-get / kool. Nobody (most) dont want to be stalkers. they want some of that equal society working their way so the girls (for once, i might add) bares their necks to the sharp axe of social embarrasment.

I tend to flip back and forth between stalking and acting cool (you know, like all the sudden being an expert in every subject she thinks is interesting so you can say intelligent stuff, and lying awake all night practicing spontaneous comments ) and then when i meet her, i feel so ashamed for losing my koolness and going through all the trouble, so i ignore her. golly gosh (jepp, i have read the rules, Ed ), that is weird.

Hang in there Trip! University is just around the corner and thats where it truly happens...

[Trip]

Holy cow! This thread *is* old, but instead of posting a new one i thought i'd just update this one with my latest/greatest:

Today was an amazing(ly wierd) day! My social life has exploded and taken over half the universe! I never knew i had so many friends, and so many female friends in my life! Infact: i just found out that this one new girl that i've been friends with since the beginning of the year doesn't have a boyfriend (for months i thought she did). And now i'm thinking about asking her out. There's a dance on thursday so it all works out nicely.

I don't know though. Maybe this is a one day thing only. But i've never seen so many people happy to see me in a long time.

Life is good my friends, life is very good.

[Decado]

Kool, Trip! i wish you all luck!
me and my girlfriend broke up a few days ago. we had a very easy-going relationship. used to hang around my apartment playing nintendo-emulators (NES) on my eMac and plan university-stuff (we are both in leading positions in the swedish student-union).
But i guess we realised we were better off as friends
But it was nice, cuz we both thought it was for the best
Now i will find the love of my life (hmm, tend to say that everytime)

/jonathan

[JohnnyV]

Trip I was having the same experience that you are a few months ago, then it all came crashing to the ground.. Be careful who you *think* your friends are.

[Trip]

I'll remeber your words.

[MacLuv]

Flirting vs. Talking?

I'm going to be a bit of a rude boy here (but I'm allowed, it's our manhood we're talking about) and say this:

If you want to get with the chick it's flirting, if you want to get the study assignment it's talking. If you find yourself not knowing what to say next or feel like you should throw in some "cool" one-liners here and there, it's flirting. If at any moment you find yourself thinking of any excuse to go talk to someone else it's talking.

Turning on your "radar" to tell if a girl is talking or flirting, observe the following within the conversation:

1. Is she talking about things that she would talk about with anyone (generic questions) or is she asking you things about yourself?

2. Does she go out of her way to speak with you?

3. Does she make eye-contact?

4. Does she have her hand on your knee?

5. Does she have "the look"?

If the answer to all of these questions is YES, by all means RUN AWAY.

If, however, you can only answer "yes" to a few of these questions, then you're "in the game" and should pursue it as much as you like, this would indeed be flirting.

If the answer is "no" to all of these questions, the girl "ain't all that anyway" and should be kicked to the curb.

Happy Hunting

[MacLuv]

BTW-- There are only two types of chicks that can be "just friends". That's your mother and your sister. Everything else is fair game.