Ed, I was frustrated with AOL back in the day ;-)
AOL provides "the internet for morons" and thats the way it works. AOL makes AOL for macosx, classic mac os, winbows xpee, and even winblows 3.1.
I agree, AOL sucks, but for the average joe, its good enough.
As for "having to use aol compatible messengers" that does bug me... most of my friends don't bother with irc and stuff because all their friends use aim. Well, their lost, my gain. I use gaim, which lets one use AIM, yahoo, Jabber, IRC, ICQ, and tons of other stuff. This is only possible, of course, because AOL has released their AIM protocol.
So, while I applaud their efforts in supporting mozilla (helping it become more standard) and opening up the IM protocol, I do not like their simplification of the internet, and their utterly stupid commercials where they brain wash people into thinking you have to has AOL to send email and IM's. "I can check my stocks with AOL" Well duh.
And, in response to something you said about how long I've been using mozilla.. heh... I've been using moz for ever. I used to use NCSA's web browser, ok? I've been on the internet since the 80's. My dad, in the 80's had internet access through a modem on a C64 connecting to the GeorgiaTech network. That was before browser wars and java and css ;-)