Connecting Ipod Mini to Ibook


I recently bought my brother an Ipod mini as a birthday gift. I have been unable to get itunes to recognize the mini. It shows up on my desktop--but when I open itunes the little ipod icon does not appear. I am using my apple Ibook, it is running OSX (i am not sure which version, i believe it's an earlier version of OSX as i bought this computer about 4 years ago and OSX was just being launched then). I tried installing the Ipod mini software updater---the menu shows up but does keeps saying something like ''please connect device". I have tried disconnecting the ipod and reconnecting it several times as well as restarting my computer several time. I would appreciate help as I am definitely getting bad birthday present status. THanks!