Grid Spacing in Finder

While we are at it, I'd really like to know:

1) How do you get the icons to stay where you put them?
2) How do you get them to stay on the screen instead of hanging 1/2 way off
3) How do you keet the stupid icons from insisting on stacking on top of each other?

These are all old gripes since Public Beta, but I am kink of irked that they have not made any improvements yet...

<rant>Yes folder icons are nice, but not as important as the folders staying where you put them. I'd be raising blody hell if the janitors rearanged my physical desk at work, and I certainly don't want my OS doing exactly that to my virtual desk.</rant>