What bobw meant was the following:
1. Open up Terminal
2. Type "cd ~/.Trash" (no quotes, and remember that commands are case sensitive). Hit the Return key.
3. Type "sudo rm -rf" (no quotes) followed by a space after the "f" and then drag the icon that's in the Trash to the Terminal window. This will automatically place the path of the file on the command line after what you typed. Once it does that, hit the Return key.
4. If prompted for a password, type your user password and hit the return key.
That should remove the file in the Trash, be it BootX or that large movie file Patron is trying to delete.