Sounds like your drive is screwed. I had exactly the same problem on my Windows laptop. Some discs would work fine, some wouldn't work at all and some would work fine for a while before refusing to work.
The "solution" to my particular problem involved pressing down on a certain part of the drive's outer bezel whilst it read the disc. I think the laser wasn't lined up properly or something like that.
My advice would be to get a new drive.
Btw, if you have 10.2.8, I'm not certain if you are eligible for the 4.6.1 DVD player upgrade. That wouldn't solve the DVD-ROM problem anyway.