I want to access the other mac on my home network, i have enabled file sharing, remote login etc. but although its on i cant seem to locate it and login it. Im on snowLeopard... how do i see it on a finder window or some other way?
Are you trying to see it from another Mac or Windows machine? Does the machine have a valid IP address for the network? One T/S step would be to shut off the firewall on the machines and see if it shows up.
It's tough to call it w/o more info on your network setup.
If I recall correctly, all you need, in Apple Remote Desktop, is to right-click the system from the computer list, and choose Control (not View, which won't wake the computer if sleeping).
Screen should appear for the computer that you want to access. (it's been a year since I last used ARD, so I might recall incorrectly, or missing some important element, but I don't think so)
If the screen is black (sleeping), just click on the screen, same as you would if you are local to the Mac.
That presupposes that you are somewhat familiar with using Apple Remote Desktop, and you have some familiarity with controlling the Macs through that app - and your remote Mac has the proper sharing services enabled.
Maybe you will need to review the user guide for ARD. http://images.apple.com/ca/fr/remotedesktop/pdf/ARD3_AdminGuide.pdf
Client is installed on each Mac that you want to view or control. You would usually just need to enable that in the Sharing prefs.
The control (ARD administrator) software is installed on the Mac that you want to use for, well, control of other Macs.
One example would be in a school computer lab, where all the student machines have ARD client enabled (through the Sharing preferences.) And, the teacher has a computer used to control all the student computers. That's an easy task for ARD, where the teacher can cause all systems to log out simultaneously, if needed.
And, the other difference is cost. Client is free, the ARD administration version is not.
Your first response appeared to show that you knew something about ARD, or had used it before - but, apparently not?
You did ask about how to use ARD to wake a sleeping Mac.
ARD Admin version provides a means to wake a sleeping system remotely. AFAIK, you can't do that just from the client.
However, ARD Admin would be overkill for use on a small home network, with just a couple of systems.
One of the other utilities that have been mentioned in this thread may also provide that capability, but I don't use those.